Good question! They/them is the polite pronoun set to use when you don’t know. In that context, think of it like “that person in the red shirt.” Maybe you are a person who always wears a red shirt and that is what you want to be know for (or is your only defining feature as … Continue reading i always thought that “they/them” was gender neutral and therefore could be used for any gender though? like she/they he/they or just they? it doesn’t necessarily mean that person ONLY goes by they/them? like I’ll use it when I’m not sure what gender someone is, as kind of an umbrella pronoun. was that wrong of me?